If you haven’t found your forever partner yet – or much worse, thought you did, only to be disappointed when you discovered that living with that person was a hell in earth — maybe it’s time for a new approach. When it comes to finding the right person for you, keep in mind the old adage: insanity is to doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Change your self-talk:
If you keep repeating the pattern of negative relationships you’ve had in the past – maybe with a man who can’t or won’t be there for you emotionally and/or physically – it might be time to ask yourself whether you believe you deserve to have what you want. Start noticing how often your inner critic speaks and make a conscious effort to accept yourself and respect who you are.
Don’t Let Desperation Take Over:
Desperation may draw only desperate people to you. Or chase others away. Be patient and do things to make yourself happy until you meet Mr. Right. This makes you determined, not desperate.
Pour Your Passion Into Something You Love Doing:
Whether it’s painting, or decorating or cooking, the act of expressing your joy will create more upbeat energy. It doesn’t have to be something big. And it doesn’t have to be expensive. Listen to your favorite music, or take a walk in nature. Getting involved in charity work or caring for animals or children or even going to a free seminar on a subject you’re interested in can be rewarding.
Affirm Your Visualization:
Instead of telling yourself that you’ll never meet anyone. Tell yourself that you have already met your man. And he is everything you’ve dreamed of, and more. This creates the space and the energy for someone like him to come into your life.
Make a List:
Write down a list of all the qualities you want in a mate – for example, funny, smart…loves animals. The characteristics you’re looking for can be as general or quirky as you like. Meditate on those qualities and how much you enjoy them.
Try Feng Shui:
Add a few touches of couple-dom in your home. Add artwork showing images of love. Place two vases together or two sculptures together. A vase of pink or red roses will also serve to reinforce positive images of the relationship coming into your life.