If you haven’t found your forever partner yet – or much worse, thought you did, only to be disappointed when you discovered that living with that person was hell on earth — maybe it’s time for a new approach. When finding the right person for you, remember the adage: insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.
- Change your self-talk
If you keep repeating the pattern of negative relationships you’ve had in the past – maybe with a man who can’t or won’t be there for you emotionally and/or physically – it might be time to ask yourself whether you believe you deserve to have what you want. Start noticing how often your inner critic speaks, and consciously accept yourself and respect who you are.
- Don’t Let Desperation Take Over
Desperation may attract only desperate people to you or chase others away. Be patient and do things to make yourself happy until you meet Mr. Right. This makes you determined, not desperate.
- Pour Your Passion Into Something You Love Doing
Whether you’re painting, decorating, or cooking, the act of expressing your joy will create more upbeat energy. It doesn’t have to be something big or expensive. Listen to your favorite music or take a walk in nature. Getting involved in charity work, caring for animals or children, or even going to a free seminar on a subject you’re interested in can be rewarding.
- Affirm Your Visualization:
Instead of telling yourself that you’ll never meet anyone, tell yourself that you have already met your man. He is everything you’ve dreamed of and more. This creates the space and energy for someone like him to come into your life.
- Make a List
Write down a list of all the qualities you want in a mate – for example, funny, smart…loves animals. The characteristics you’re looking for can be as general or quirky as you like. Meditate on those qualities and how much you enjoy them.
- Try Feng Shui
Add a few touches of coupledom to your home. Add artwork showing images of love. Place two vases or two sculptures together. A vase of pink or red roses will also reinforce positive images of the relationship coming into your life.