When Your Relationship Can’t Be Fixed

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Is Your Relationship Beyond Fixing?

You might be in a situation where you have had a time in your relationship and now, you’re to a point where you wonder if it is even worth trying to save. Even though you love your partner, the relationship looks like its beyond fixing. It can be hard to know what you should do next.

Is Your Relationship Beyond Fixing?

You need to look at your broken relationship and see if it is worth trying to save or not. Here are some things that might be wrong:

  • You No Longer Feel the Love

Even though you care about each other, there isn’t real love. There are times where people actually just fall out of love for no real reason. When you no longer love someone, you have your brain change and it becomes different, and you no longer feel the same. There is nothing that can be done about love that is no longer there.

You can’t change it when you feel different about someone, and it can mean that your relationship is no longer able to be saved. Sometimes when you keep trying you just end up more upset because things never seem to get better.

Even though you can love your partner it doesn’t mean that you are still in love. You need to realize that this can happen and when it does you might need to move on to save both of you.

  • Breaking Up and Getting Back Together

One sign is that you keep breaking up with each other, but you get back together. You might be getting back together because you’re lonely or because you miss having a relationship, but it doesn’t mean that you miss this relationship.

Spending time apart can let you see if there is any hope left. If you keep breaking up and getting back together this can be hurtful for your partner and chances, are you are both just wasting time on a relationship that is unfixable.

You might need to ask if you’re even with the right person or if you are better off leaving.

  • You’re in it for the Wrong Reasons

Another thing that might happen is that you’re in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Here are some of the wrong reasons to stay with someone:

    • You don’t want to be alone.
    • You are afraid of starting over.
    • You feel obligated to be with your partner.
    • You are in a toxic relationship, and you feel you can’t leave.

No matter why you are in the relationship, if the reasons for staying are wrong then you are going to never last. You have to figure out what is going on and you need to face reality. Don’t stay if you’re in for the wrong reasons.

  • Toxic Relationships

Being in a toxic relationship means that you’re in an unfixable relationship. You need to break free of this. If your partner has toxic habits or personality traits and they get help and fix it, then the relationship is fixable but if they don’t then you need to get out.

You have to accept that the relationship isn’t fixable and move on with your life without them. Sometimes people just aren’t meant to be together and if this is the case, let them go.

  • Things Have Been Terrible for a While

When you’re in a relationship that isn’t fixable chances are that you’ve been in this bad relationship for quite some time. You might have even tried to fix things. All couples have ups and downs but when the downs are more than the ups then this is a problem.

When you have to deal with one thing after the next and things are never getting fixed then you are probably not right for each other. Not only can this cause pain but it can also cause resentment. Before you get to the place where you hate each other, move on, and find happiness with someone else.

  • Things Aren’t Getting Better

If you’re trying to fix things and they aren’t getting better or they are getting worse, this is a bad sign. You’ve been in this place for a while and nothing you can do seems to make things better. These signs show that there is nothing that is being fixed and you are going to lose more hope if you stay.

  • There’s No Communication

One of the biggest problems with relationships is the communication. If you find that you and your partner aren’t able to talk to each other and you are barely speaking at all, this can be a problem.

You won’t have a good relationship when there isn’t communication. This will cause there to be distance and cause there to be questions as to if the relationship is worth your time or not.

  • You Are Trying to Find New Love

People that are in broken relationships are often looking for love in other places before the relationship ever even ends. Here are some things to ask yourself:

    • Do you check out other people?
    • Do you have a desire to be romantic with someone else?
    • Do you long to be with someone that isn’t your partner?
    • Do you want to have an affair?
    • Have you been talking to people behind your partners back?
    • Have you been flirting and crossing boundaries with someone else?

All of these things are a no-no if you’re with someone and before you go out and cheat on your partner, you might want to end the relationship. Cheating is something that is hard to get over and if you’re already thinking about having an affair or cheating on them then chances are you need to move on.

If you or your partner is cheating, then you know you need to do the right thing. You have to either fix the relationship and make it better or you need to both move on.

Having a partner that is cheating is something that can leave you upset and hurt, and it has to be addressed. You can’t treat each other poorly and the best thing that you can do is to leave the relationship.

Trust is an important part of any relationship, and you should have complete honesty and care for one another. Don’t just look at this as something simple because if you’re in a relationship where there is cheating, it can be fixed but if it keeps happening then it might get to the point where it is unfixable.

  • There’s No Hope

Your relationship probably isn’t fixable if you feel that there’s no hope in the future with your partner. You need to ask yourself these things:

    • Do I want to even be in this relationship?
    • Is this the relationship I imagined for myself?
    • Does this relationship meet mine and my partner’s needs?
    • Are we compatible?
    • Why do I want to walk away?
    • Why do I feel this relationship is unfixable?

It can be hard to face this and it can be hard to leave but the best thing to do is to leave and not to keep your partner bound to you if you don’t intend on having a good relationship. This can be unfair to both of you.

Final Thoughts

If you feel that you need to leave your relationship, then be brave and go ahead and make the move. Even if this is hard, if it is what needs to be done then you will be helping yourself and your partner. Do this for peace and to be able to allow yourself the chance to meet someone that you really can love.