When someone betrays you, it can be hard to get over. This is harder when it was someone that you really trusted. You have to figure out why someone betrayed you so that you can get past your emotions. But sometimes you won’t ever know.
Finding the right words to say after a betrayal can be hard. You might get angry, and you might want to scream or curse. Try to get your life together and try to not desire to have revenge.
Figure out what you can say and know that you can make it through the hard times. When you get betrayed in friendship or from your partner, there are trust breakers that are hard to get over. When your partner cheats or when your best friend isn’t there for you when you need them, this can be hard on you.
Betrayal can feel terrible and even though you might not understand why it happened, you might be able to figure out how to get past it.
Why Friends Betray Friends
Friends betray friends because of greediness, jealousy, ambition or because they are a fake friend. They might do things to get ahead even if it means stepping on you. This can happen between friends and it can be a betrayal that is hard to get over.
When a friend is jealous of you or they are greedy, it can lead to betrayal. They might just not want you to be happy if it means you have something that they want.
Friends will also betray each other if they have a mental illness. Psychopaths betray each other and they hurt people along the way. No matter if they betrayed you or not, this is a relationship that will be hard to ever salvage.
When A Person Betrays You
Don’t try to get even when someone hurts you, even if you are upset or angry. The best thing that you can do is to still do the right thing. Take time to process your feelings and take time to make sure you have a clear mind. Here are some things you can do:
Accept what happens even if you don’t like it. No matter how close you were to this person, if they betray you, you have to move forward.
Look at the Situation
Look at the situation and see what you need to do. Find out why they betrayed you and find out what you can do to move on or to fix the relationship.
You can try and reach out to the person that betrayed you or you can reach out to other friends or family that you need in your life.
Talk About Your Emotions
Even though emotions can be hard to talk about, talk about them anyways. Talk to the person that hurt and betrayed you. Ask them why they did it and expect an answer.
What Not to Do
One of the best ways to heal is to make sure that you aren’t making the situation even worse. Here are things not to do:
Let Anger Rule
Don’t let anger rule you. Don’t get stuck in your emotions and make sure that you are walking away instead of getting revenge.
Don’t go and get revenge when someone hurts you. Even if someone hurts you or wrongs you, let it go. The best thing that you can do is to move forward and to live your best life.
Blaming Your Own Self
When someone betrays you, don’t blame yourself for it. Put the guilt where it belongs and then learn to figure out what to do next. Life is full of ups and down, live it.
Getting An Apology
Once you forgive the person that has hurt you, sometimes you will get an apology and sometimes you can’t. Some people will try and make things right but sometimes you won’t get the apology that you want.
Not Getting an Apology
There will be times that you won’t get the apology that you want. This can happen when someone doesn’t care if they hurt you or if they don’t believe that it was their fault. Some people aren’t worth trying to get an apology from.
How to Save the Relationship of a Betrayer
When someone betrays you it can be hard to save the relationship. You might not know how to move forward if the relationship is ever going to be repaired.
- Remember that people sometimes deserve a second chance and if you are ready to give it to them, do it.
- Tell the person how much they hurt you.
- Let them know why you are forgiving them.
- If you are betrayed by a friend, tell them how much they mean in your life.
- Tell your friend something private and see if they keep your secret.
- Don’t hold things from the past against them.
What to Tell Someone that Betrays You
There are things that might not ever be fixed or forgotten but you need to live your best life so that you can move forward. Here are some things to tell someone that betrays you:
- You cheated and I don’t want anything to do with you.
- You hurt me and threw me under the bus.
- You knew how I felt and now I don’t want to be in this relationship.
- You aren’t ready to be in a real relationship.
How to Stop Future Betrayals
The best thing that you can do to prevent someone from betraying you in the future is to figure out why you were betrayed in the first place. Here are some ways to stop it from happening again:
- Pay attention to red flags: Believe someone when they are trying to protect you.
- Know who you are: Listen to what your gut feeling tells you.
- Ask questions: Don’t be afraid to ask your friend or partner about what is going on in their life and if they are betraying you.
- Walk away: If you keep being wronged or you cannot make the relationship work out after a betrayal, walk away.
When someone betrays you, you might not know what to say or to do. Even though this can hurt you tremendously, you have to figure out how to live your best life and how to move forward with something better.