Love is an aspect of life that hasn’t changed much throughout history. However, how we give and show love most certainly has dramatically changes a lot and as technology evolves, this difference becomes more noticeable every year. For this year you have the opportunity to make some changes that will not only prolong love and make it better, but make it easier to understand. Here are seven ways to do just that!
1. Ask More Questions
Curiosity is a wonderful tool because it helps us get to know people. It helps us to know when they are happy, sad or excited. Want to know who they are, where they’ve been and where they’re going? Just ask! When you ask your partner questions, you’re checking in with them. You’re also checking on your relationship. Asking questions show that you are engaged and it lets your partner know that you find them fascinating.
2. Don’t Blame Yourself for Their Mood
Believe it or not, the world doesn’t revolve around you. And if your partner is in a bad mood or feeling down, there’s a good chance you didn’t cause it. Maybe they’ve just had a bad day. Don’t read into their moods too much and don’t let a bad mood spell doom and gloom for your relationship. If you really want to know what’s going on with them, utilize the first tip and ask more questions.
3. Know Exactly What You Want
The people who don’t know what they want in a relationship have either never asked themselves that question, or have never answered it honestly. However, you can save a lot of time and heartache if you know what you want. If your partner should ever ask what you need (and hopefully they do), you should be able to tell them. Just remember that men understand direct instructions better than emotions. So asking for support is too general. Instead, say specifically what you need, whether it be a back rub or picking up your clothes from the dry cleaner.
4. Think About Who You Attract
If you’re single and attracting the wrong kinds of people, you may be wondering why. What is it about them that draws them to you? Well, they’re not the issue—you are. There is something about you that draws these people to you, and if you don’t like it, you need to do something about it. Be the person you want to attract. If you don’t have those qualities already, work on having them.
5. Keep the Romance Jar Full
It’s easy to be romantic when a relationship is new. However, the longer couples stay together, the less likely they are to be romantic with each other. That’s probably due to familiarity. Don’t be one of these couples. Keep the romance jar full with love notes in their lunches or on the bathroom mirror. Kiss them before they leave for work in the morning and when they come home. Don’t give them a reason to find that kind of affection elsewhere.
6. Keep Them on Their Toes
Being a bit mysterious is attractive—people like the unknown. Don’t let your partner get too comfortable or they will lose interest if they feel like they have you no matter what. You don’t want them to see your relationship as a stationary object rather than a living, breathing organic entity. Relationships are constantly changing, and therefore require constant communication and effort to maintain the same level of commitment. This may sound like a lot of work, but it becomes much easier when you allow a little bit of mystery to initiate curiosity and incentive.
7. Speak Your Mind
You will lose every argument you don’t have, considering it is a lost opportunity to sort out bad feelings before they turn into resentment. An argument should be an expression of values, desires, and feelings, and therefore should be treated with great importance and respect. Building a great relationship is a process of trial and error, but if you never acknowledge the error, you’ll never grow beyond your first effort.