Why is it hard for us ladies to really connect romantically with people nowadays? Of all the things, commitment is a real struggle for my friends and clients. It is not clear if it is them or their partner but none of them have any idea on when or how to commit let alone talk about it.
So what brings about these commitment issues and how do we deal with them? In the long run, most things rely on how you carry yourself, the experiences you have gone through, communication and astrological background.
Fortune-telling and commitment
I can safely say that you need to handle your astrological chart before dealing with commitment issues. Moreover, your sun and moon sign can also be of assistance. But in most cases, you will notice that not every sign is disposed to pair bond or be monogamous. As a result, these tendencies can be of much support when you are aware of them. Hence, you can set more achievable objectives when you are with your partner.
Below are some common classifications but do not react negatively when you see them.
- Signs concerned with commitment: Capricorn, Libra, Virgo, Scorpio, Taurus, Cancer
- Open-minded lovers (are satisfied with arrangements in the long-term): Gemini, Aquarius, Aries, Sagittarius, and a few Scorpios
- Those used to monogamy. (They like long-term commitment but cannot mate for life). They include Leo, Aries, Libra, Scorpio, and Pisces.
As you can see, there are recurrences on some signs. They are so dependent on self-assurance (Libra), how they tackle jealousy issues (Scorpio), or if a certain relationship is suitable for them (Aries).
Obviously, there are signs which can mate for a lifetime. There are also those which can be single in the long run. However, Capricorns can never be seen to be poly players. When one wants to find out more about inner essence or important values, they can be assisted by looking at the sun signs. Moon signs, on the other hand, define emotional needs and preferences.
Self-interest is crucial
On some levels, some relationships hugely depend on each other. This is because we believe that the “I can’t live without you” love is the way to go. However, this issue is still a thought-plague in various cultures.
Relying on yourself or rather self-interest can be the antidote to this co-dependency. Furthermore, it can help you know that being alone is not a bad thing. You will be able to look after yourself by setting healthy boundaries. Insecurity can drive a person to rush into a relationship. When we ladies do this then we will definitely drive potential men away. Therefore, at some point, we will have to talk about commitment. Dealing with this obstacle maturely can best be done when we have a deep sense of love within.
Communication is also crucial
Communicating with self-awareness and maturity can be of much assistance when handling commitment issues. Moreover, mastering the art of communication involves knowing more about yourself, your uncertainties and subconscious hang-ups. Mostly, when you find lazy or scared men they will always tend to drift apart with that person they are in love with. Women put more effort towards self-love/reliance while men look at self-awareness. Both of these features are important when handling committed relationships. Whenever you want to have a healthy relationship when you move in together, share financial resources or even start a family you ought to be a good communicator.
Experiences faced in life
when it comes to relationships, some us have better role models than others. One has to look at his or her past in terms of life experiences whenever they want to be in a long-term commitment. This will help them handle the obstacles and uncertainties surrounding their decision to commit.
Bottom line is, each relationship is unique and it is next to impossible to give advice about when to commit. Hence, a spiritual advisor or other mentors can come in handy in this case. But for this to work, both parties should be ready to fully participate.
In summary, possessing both self-awareness and self-love allows us to be ready when we want to commit to someone. All you have to do is be honest, open and vulnerable. You should find a way to deal with your own fears in a way that they do not affect you later. On the other hand, when you are not ready to commit or handle rejection, you should set boundaries. Therefore, committing to yourself and your own development can really help when you want to commit to another human being.