People don’t simply want to fall in love. They want that “crazy for you” kind of romance. Just as people change as time passes, our relationships do, too. Relationships based on convenience, or that appear to fulfill society’s ideals, are no longer satisfying. We all crave that “once in a lifetime” type of relationship.
People generally enter into their quests for love with a karmic relationship. Unfortunately, karmic relationships are not easy, and they’re not meant to last. Their purpose is to teach us lessons, often the ones we were not able to grasp in a previous lifetime. Our partners in karmic relationships are not intended to make this easy for us. The lessons are hard to learn, and involve significant issues such as changing the way we think.
Karmic relationships just won’t seem to work regardless of how much effort you invest in them. This is because you weren’t meant to have a happily-ever-after with your karmic partner. So, the worst choice you can make in a karmic relationship is to try to hang on.
Do you think you may be in a karmic relationship? Check if the following seven characteristics describe you and your partner.
- Karmic partners are self-centered.
Karmic partners lack healthy relationship boundaries. They’re focused on their own self-interests and needs. One partner may be fully invested, but the other may view the relationship as one of convenience. You need to start putting yourself first for your own good.
- Karmic partners are stuck repeating the same patterns.
Off-and-on relationships are almost always karmic relationships. If you continue to experience the same issues over and over, be aware that there’s a lesson there for you to learn. The healthy way to move forward is to grow from the experience and let your partner go.
- Karmic partners are obsessive.
Karmic partners are jealous and overly controlling. Karmic partners often become the center of each other’s universe. It’s all about owning the other person. In effect, you surrender all of the control in the relationship to your partner.
- Karmic partners idolize each other.
Karmic partners often put each other on pedestals and overlook their flaws until it’s too late. People who got married young and divorceed soon after most likely made the mistake of marrying their karmic partner. They were in for a hard fall when the truth came calling.
- Karmic partners are shallow.
Karmic partners are often one-dimensional. They’re obsessed with the concept of being in love and focus on superficial characteristics such as popularity, appearances, finances, and social status.
- Karmic partners provoke each other.
Karmic partners are often drawn into relationships because they need to learn how to love themselves or that they can’t control their circumstances. You can only escape the infinite cycle when you master your self-control and stop pushing each other’s buttons.
- Karmic partners bring out each other’s negative characteristics.
Karmic partners bring out your most undesirable and difficult personality traits, and you may not even be aware of them. Darker tendencies such as intense jealousy, maddening hatred, burning anger break you down to remind you just how fragile you are.
Are you still not sure? Check if the following six signs apply to your relationship.
- A karmic relationship feels fated.
No matter how miserable you are in the relationship, you believe you and your partner are destined to be together and could not live without each other. You can’t figure out why the relationship continues to break down, even though you keep trying to patch things up and get it right. Your partner’s appeal is impossible to resist. And you will keep getting ensnared until you master the lesson you’re intended to grasp.
- Karmic relationships are co-dependent.
Partners in karmic relationships are physically, mentally, and emotionally dependent on each other. The relationship is all-consuming and the bond is intense. Partners lose their identities, and the relationship constantly occupies their thoughts. Your partner is the main cause of your happiness and the only person who can make you smile.
- Karmic relationships start with immediate attraction.
Karmic partners are obsessive. They overlook each other’s flaws and constantly excuse their mistakes. Yet you feel there’s nobody else like them, and that they’re perfect for you—it feels like you knew them in a previous life.
- Karmic relationships expose your deepest fears.
Karmic relationships bring all of the things you fear to the surface. Whether you fear rejection, abandonment, loss, emotional attachment, or commitment, you will face it in your karmic relationship.
- Karmic relationships make you irrational.
Karmic relationships have the effect of holding a mirror to reflect all of your vulnerabilities and insecurities. You stop acting like yourself and lose your sense of right and wrong. You do things you wouldn’t normally do and you rationalize your foolish behavior.
- Karmic relationships are volatile.
These relationships are astonishingly tumultuous. They’re unhealthy, unpredictable, and erratic. When you realize you’re in a karmic relationship, the best option is to put the turmoil in your past. If you don’t, you’ll continue to repeat the same patterns.
Karmic relationships don’t last. This is not your forever relationship. No matter how strong your desire may be, it will not become your fairytale ending. Karmic relationships can’t work out. They’re rooted in conflict, are unhealthy for your physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, and they always end in heartbreak.
Every romantic relationship involves challenges and problems. These obstacles cause difficulties, but they also help you grow and learn important lessons. So, if your karmic partner needs to move on, it’s best to gracefully let them go.
Karmic relationships can be passionate and intoxicating, but they were never meant to last. Karmic partners come into our lives, teach us lessons, change us for the better, and leave. The most important thing is to recognize when it’s time to move on and to summon enough strength to let go.